Living in India has really highlighted the cultural differences of things that I have often taken for granted. How we meet our future spouses is most definitely a case in point.
My culture certainly has its fair share of well meaning friends, relatives and co-workers who have the “perfect person” in mind for someone to spend their lives with. Even if one doesn’t wish to avail themselves of this advice, it is often persistently given. Barring that, people meet frequently at school, parties, conferences, libraries, sporting events, airports…the list is endless, and one has to wonder at the statistics of how frequently those serendipitous meetings lead to long term relationships.
In Kerala (and I believe the rest of India as well) there is still a tradition of family involvement in the choice of life partner. Historically there was always an “auntie” (the catch-all name for an older, married woman) who has just the right match for young men and women of their acquaintance. But times are changing and computers and the internet have taken a role in this process, whether it be “on line dating” in the Western world, or “matrimonial sites” here.
I was recently shown a “print out” from an on line matrimonial site based in Kerala. Continue reading















